As they began to prepare for your impending arrival into our lives I began to fear you and resent you for the rift you would invariably create in my relationship with my sister.Could you bame me?Who was this outsider to enter our lives and take away that which I considered my own, my sister. Who did he think he was this foreign element trying to ruin a relationship we had spent our lives trying to establish and perfect? Did he really think he could just walk in and destroy or modify a relationship that made us what we were today? I know to you, this may seem like a gross over-reaction but around me I had seen families changed as the new husband had one of two approaches
- To clearly mark their territory by imposing his will and needs on his new bride to an extent that this consumed her
- To establish himself as the third rung in the sibling relationship.
Neither of these options appealed to me and I began to dread the day you would officially carry my sister off.Once you entered I watched you skeptically. While everyone seemed concerned with your perfections I waited for you to reveal your flaws. As time passed I finally did begin to see a change. However it was not the change I had been searching for. For the first time I saw my sister's eyes glow when she spoke of you. I had never before seen this glow and it took me awhile to understand it. I slowly started to notice the contentment in her voice when she spoke of her life with you. The simple yet unmasked joy that lay in her voice when she spoke of routines you followed. The affectionate indulgence that arose from her voice when she complained about those small habits. Though this unsettled me first, as my sister was not someone I expectd to see such reactions in, I slowly began to enjoy listening to the happiness that sometimes could not be contained in her voice.
To say this redeemed ypu in my eyes would be a huge understatement. Then there was our relationship. As mentioned earlier I watched you warily, looking for how you planned to distort my relationship. But again you proved me wrong. Not once did you ever impose yourself on our relation and neither did you ever demand my sister's time when she was with me. Due to some cosmic miracle I got a brother-in-law who understood my sister's importance in my life and my emotional attachment to her. You encouraged her to be with me. You helped us become closer both geographically and emotionally. You understood me at times when my sister couldn't and explained things from my perspective.
For all of this I thank you. Our lives have been enriched with your presence. Know that today, tomorrow and always you are cherished and every day I thank god that of all the people who came so close it was you!
Love
Your little sister
